Try this 9-word phrase to shut narcissistic co-worker down instantly

If there's someone at work who seems to have it in for you, and they're trying to make a fool of you at every opportunity, you may want to use this 9-word phrase to shut them down. The woman behind the TikTokaccount @corporatecleanse said you can "win against a narcissisticco-worker" by saying the quick phrase and watching "them lose complete control," because this is what they "run on".

"That is their fuel. They try to control you by making you feel scared, small or guilty. They start drama, they twist your words, they act like you did something wrong when you didn't," she explained.

This is because the co-worker or boss who is narcissistic wants you to be "upset" because if you feel this way, it can allow them to feel "powerful" while they do everything they can to make you feel small.

• Woman shares simple tip for folding fitted sheets and people say it's 'witchcraft'
• Alan Titchmarsh says 'ruthless' slug control trick is 'only thing that stops them'

"If you're shaking, defending, explaining yourself, they think that they are in charge," she reiterated.

If you try to be "calm" and "explain" yourself to them with "screenshots and emails" as "proof" of what you're trying to share with them, but they "still say that never happened" and you're "overreacting".

They will continue to try and belittle the point you're giving to them, finding whole new ways to be mad at you. The person in question may even go the extra mile and ask you why you're being "so emotional" about a situation, which can make matters so much worse.

"They are not listening; they are watching your reaction. So this is the line I want you to use - I am not available for this kind of conversation," she said.

She urged people to "stay calm" and not give any "extra story" or try to "defend yourself" because "when you do that, you shut off their game because now you're not yelling, you're not begging, and you're not trying to prove yourself," which they hate.

You need to step "out of the chaos," but they might "push harder" and try to "guilt trip you" or "ignore you" or even "talk bad about you and run to HR and try to flip the story".

But she reassured people not to "panic" because that's "normal" and you just need to "keep it boring" and document "everything in writing".

"A person in chaos is easy to control. A person who stays calm and keeps receipts is not. And their biggest fear is not losing you. Their biggest fear is losing control over you," she shared.

In the comments, someone wrote: "I had a boss call me toxic to my face, and when I told her 'I would like to respectfully end this call now', she wouldn’t let me. Soooo... I’m gonna need the step that comes after this. Lol."

Another replied: "I would have just hung up the call and directly emailed HR for an 'urgent matter'."

Others said the video was "correct," sharing that something similar "happened to" them and their narcissistic boss didn't like it.